Instilling Islamic Values In The Family
The family is the foundation of religious education for our children. Parents are teachers and educators whose role is to instil religious values and morals into them. It is through the family that our children acquire their first knowledge through education before any other guidance is given.
Education provided in schools are bound by time and specific syllabus, while the learning process in the family happens continuously. Abdullah Nasih Ulwan spoke of this in his book Tarbiatul Aulad: "Religious education is an effort to provide and nurture children to be good members of the society and to become a righteous person in this life". Therefore, parents should be good examples and role models to the children when they are at their side.
This corresponds to a hadith recorded by Imam Bukhari as narrated by Abu Huraira RA where Rasulullah SAW said: Which means: "Every child is born in a state of innocence and free from any sin. Both his parents will make him either a Jew, a Christian or a fire worshipper. Just like an animal which gives birth to its offspring without any disability, do you see any (young animal) born mutilated before you mutilate them? "
The reality today is that there are many parents who ignore this responsibility and do not manage their children well. This irresponsible attitude of parents, who are ignorant of their children's activities, is the cause of children’s involved in vices. Similarly, the attitude of parents who are more concerned with the so-called academic achievements in line with the requirements of today's world, without any regard to instilling Islamic values and teachings, has resulted in a crisis of morality, such as babies born out of wedlock, abandoned children, bullying and many other social problems and plights.
Children are the responsibility of parents. By neglecting to educate them, parents are betraying their trust. Parents should play an important role in promoting a balanced life for their children. As the Malay saying goes, to bend a bamboo, start when it is still a young shoot. However, do not despair, for if it has already turned into bamboo, another option is to carve it beautifully to create something of value to the public.
Allah SWT declared in Surah Al-Kahf verse 46: Which means: “Wealth and sons are allurements of the life of this world: but the things that endure Good Deeds are best in the sight of the Lord as rewards and best as (the foundation for) hopes.
Islam has outlined some guidelines to parents in an effort to shape religious education for children, which includes:
First: Building a harmonious environment at home
Second: Becoming good role models
Third: Educating based on age
Educate children according to their age, as stated in the hadith of Rasulullah SAW, recorded by Imam Abu Daud and narrated by Amr bin Shuaib: وا ُ فَرَِّق َ و ٍ عَشْر ُ ُ ْم َأبْنَاء َه ُ ْم عَلَْيهَا و وه ُ اضْرِب َ ِسنِينَ و َسبْعِ ُ ُ ْم َأبْنَاء َه لادَكُ ْم بِال ََّصلاةِ و ْ وا َأو ُ ر ُ م الْمَ َضا ِجع. )رواية أبي داود( ِ ب َيْنَه ُمْ فِي Which Means: "Order your children to offer prayers when they are seven years old and punish them if they leave it at the age of ten years, and separate their beds from yours".
The development of all above can increase the capacity of intellectual potential, self-confidence and values of our children. As a result, these children will be bestowed with exceptional personality, excellent knowledge and an attitude that is in harmony with the natural belief bestowed by Allah SWT.
They would feel embarrassed to do activities that are immoral and contrary to the norms of life, such as breach of trust, corruption, oppressing others and so on. It would be a reflection, and due to the practice, of Islamic values instilled in their lives since young. In due course, the quality of the society will be improved, which, in turn, will ensure the prosperity of our country
To ensure this goal is achieved, parents, schools and communities should work together and combine their energy. Even with good education and exposure to religion provided within the family, it is very difficult to nurture and develop a child’s personality without the support of the school and the community.
These three institutions, family, school and community, cannot be separated. In fact, they are intertwined with each other. This is to ensure that the education received by children will create an individual who is emotionally, mentally and spiritually balanced. Remember, these children will grow up and determine the future of our country. The security and prosperity of the nation will be preserved if our youth are forged and moulded with Islamic values.
To end the sermon today, the mimbar would like to invite the congregation to reflect upon the following points, as guidance and reminder for all of us:
First: The family is the main foundation of religious education for our children. The family provides the process of character building, which will influence our children’s development.
Second: The instilling of religious values will increase the capacity of exceptional intellect, self-confidence and values within families.
Third: Parents should strive to establish and instil religious education among children, through the creation and promotion of a harmonious environment at home, and their education through methods recommended by Islam.
Allah SWT declared in Surah Al-Furqan, verse 74: Which means: “And those who pray "Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous."